Whichever stage it happens at how it affects you will depend very much on how you think about it.Although it may feel very hurtful it is not you as a person that is being rejected.Attempting to date someone using a mainstream online dating site can be frustrating if you continue receiving replies similar to these—or no reply at all.
Rejection is a natural part of the dating process, whether it’s not getting a reply from your message or securing a second date.
The most important lesson to learn is how to cope with rejection and move on.
Matched with destiny, your future trips happily towards the light.
This is the best case scenario, a situation that everybody assures you will happen, regardless of how dire it all looks.
Happily, we’re here to help Rejection can occur at all different stages in the dating process.
Right at the beginning you might send a match a one liner and they don’t respond at all; you may be chatting on line and they suddenly cut contact or block you; you may go on a first date and you think it has gone really well but they decide they don’t want to see you again or you may have been on a few dates and then they change their mind.
You use the internet to varying degrees of success, clicking and writing emails and then clicking some more, and sometimes, if the cards are in your favor and the stars align, you end up meeting a stranger in a public setting and make awkward small talk while wearing shoes that pinch your toes and more makeup than you would for a Tuesday.
When it’s over, you’re euphoric or despondent, alternating between mapping out a future for yourself or envisioning waiting for an email that never arrives.
You must be, otherwise you wouldn’t hurt so much, right? Here’s why: Recent studies placed people in f MRI machines (scanners that look at what happens in our brains when we’re thinking or doing something) and asked them to think about a painful and recent rejection. The same pathways in the brain became activated when people experienced a rejection as when they experienced physical pain.
In fact, the overlap was so substantial, that when researchers gave people the pain reliever Acetaminophen (Tylenol) and put them through a rejection experience, they reported feeling significantly less emotional pain than those who did not receive Tylenol.
There is no way to assess whether potential dates are interested other than to message them.